Living Abroad, Student Life Abroad

Dating Someone New While Studying Abroad

November 9, 2017

Going to an AFL (Australian Footy League) game with my partner!

In my previous blog post, “Ending a Relationship to Study Abroad,” I talked about the difficulties of breaking up with someone special and arriving in a new country completely heartbroken. Now I’m going to talk about how I ended up dating someone new while studying abroad and how that affected my friendship with my partner that I had broken up with.

So, like I’ve said, I arrived in Australia heartbroken over my ended relationship but still remained good friends with my ex – we kept in touch via social media, talking everyday and remained very close. But being in a new country, I was feeling very lonely and sad over the break up. So I installed the Tinder dating app on my phone, (yes, Australia uses Tinder just as much as America does!) Before arriving in Australia, I really had no intention of dating or at least not seriously dating – maybe go on a casual date once in a while but I was so upset over the break up that I couldn’t imagine dating anyone else and I really planned to use this study abroad experience to just enjoy being by myself. The only reason that I joined Tinder was in an effort to survive the break up – just a gesture to push myself in the direction of getting over my ex and moving on. I wasn’t very active on Tinder and I just kind of used it as something to do when I was bored. Well have you ever heard the saying, “God laughs when you make a plan…”

After about a week of being in Australia, someone on Tinder, a local Aussie, reached out to me and I had a good feeling about them and felt comfortable enough with our conversation that I agreed to meet them for a midday coffee date. We got along extremely well and began dating right away. So I found myself with a new partner and in a new relationship within just two weeks of arriving in Australia. Now this is not like me at all; I don’t jump into relationships with just anyone so when this new person asked to establish a relationship together, of course I was apprehensive but they were unlike anyone that I had ever met before and I was curious to see where the relationship would go.

It was by no means a rebound and I did feel extremely guilty about jumping into a relationship with someone else so soon. So I did hold off on telling my ex back home that I was seeing someone – not that I was keeping this new relationship a secret, but because I wasn’t sure how serious it would really become and I didn’t want to hurt my ex if this new relationship wasn’t going to last. So it wasn’t until my new partner and I had been dating for about three weeks that I finally told me ex that I was seeing someone. Of course, my ex was crushed and told me that he couldn’t talk to me for a bit and blocked me on all social media. I’m still sad about how that turned out but my current Aussie partner and I are still together – we have been dating for a little over three months now and we’re happy.
Again, the Gilman scholarship has helped me in ways that I couldn’t have anticipated. It’s amazing what having a safety net with just an extra bit of money can do. Being awarded the Gilman scholarship has allowed me the financial relief to embrace opportunities that I probably would’ve otherwise had to pass by in an effort to scrape and save and ration. Because of the extra funds awarded to me by the Gilman scholarship, I felt comfortable enough to take a chance, to go out on a date, and to my surprise, I ended up meeting someone really amazing because of it and we’ve gotten to enjoy going out together. So I say another big thank you to the Gilman scholarship program for enhancing my study abroad experience in a way that I would’ve never imagined.

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